We live in an age where you are either judged to have good feelings or bad feelings. I mean in the Victorian era in the 19th century you were judged to be morally good or morally bad in the eyes of some divine power. Nowadays you’re judged, or you feel judged, to have either the right feelings or the wrong feelings. This is a significant shift, we act as if we are being watched and judged 24/7 for the way we feel and the choices we make, while knowing that at the same time nobody is watching. And underlying this is the idea that it all comes from within. So if you have the bad feelings, there’s something wrong inside you. The way you deal with a situation is wrong, you need to be adjusted. But we have a forgotten idea in psychology that says the exact opposite. It says that not all, but a lot of your feelings don’t come from inside you, they come from outside of you.